Whether your long-time nanny is moving on or you’re hiring household help for the first time, transitioning to a new caregiver can be tricky for little ones. Kids build strong bonds, and an abrupt change can cause confusion, anxiety, and sadness. With some preparation and TLC, you can ease the adjustment and ensure your children embrace their new nanny.
The Value of the Old Nanny’s Help
If possible, involve your outgoing nanny in the transition process. Their continued presence provides comfort and consistency as you introduce the new caregiver. Here are some ways the exiting nanny can assist:
• Talk it up – Have the old nanny frequently discuss the upcoming change in a positive light in the weeks leading up to their departure.
• Parallel play dates – Schedule playtimes where the new nanny joins you and the old nanny engages with the kids. This gets everyone acquainted before the handoff.
• Shared activities – The old nanny can lead familiar songs, games, and routines with the new nanny participating. Kids will learn that the new nanny knows the same beloved activities.
• Exit empowerment – On their last day, have the old nanny build excitement about their next adventure and remind kids that the new nanny is ready to have lots of fun with them.
If the previous nanny isn’t available, don’t worry – you can still smooth the way for a great transition.
Transition Tips for Parents
• Show and tell – Print out pictures of the new nanny doing nanny-type things so kids can visualize their new friend.
• Read all about it – Age-appropriate books about welcoming new people and dealing with changes in routine can normalize the experience.
• Role play – Act out scenarios with dolls or puppets where one is sad about the old friend leaving, but then gets happy with the new friend’s arrival.
• Stay positive – Kids will take cues from you, so avoid negative language and keep an upbeat, optimistic tone.
• Stick to routines – Maintaining familiar schedules, meals, and activities will create a sense of security and stability despite the change.
• Be patient – The adjustment may take a while. Stick with it and let the bond develop at its own pace.
When Memories Take Root
The age at which kids start forming lasting memories is quite young – studies suggest between 2-3 years old. From around 3 years, autobiographical memories begin sticking. If your child is around that age or older when the transition occurs, they may vividly recall the experience (e.g. when their beloved Nanny Jessica left).
The good news? By handling the change with sensitivity, you can stamp positive new memories of growing close with their awesome new nanny. With patience and planning, they’ll soon be eager for daily adventures together.
